........ we had a slight change of plan, we are having the chapel. Miks brother has arranged everything, no service though, Tom (miks bro.) will give a eulogy and then ask friends and family to share their memories of Mik, we will then ask everyone to each place a single flower on the casket and then as he is taken away from us 'Always look on the bright side of Life" (Monty Python) will be played. I know its a bit strange but its what he wanted and how he thought about life. We had to find a photo of him to go on the casket and have spent the day going through a lifetime of memories, including the first one of us ever taken together 30 years ago. It was a complete madness, my ex-sil turned up and then a friend and then another with food for the freezer, then one of the nurses from the hospital turned up with a casserole (which is going to last another two nights dinners), all the time the phone was going off, we've laughed and cried and shared so much today.
Jessica told us that the brightest, sparkliest star in the sky is her grandad looking down on her. She's being a very brave little girl, giving us all cuddles when we weaken, reminding granma every so often when she slips up and talks about grandad in the present tense, Granmaaaaaa, grandads not here, he's in heaven silly.
Well the first day as a widow is finally over. Sounds very strange, I hope people don't start calling me "The Widow Coyle". I went shopping first thing while it was quiet this morning, managed to get in and out without one tear being shed though it was a close call. Especially as there were a whole heap of things I don't have to buy now. I practised in my head saying, I'm sorry Mik passed away to all the people I thought I might meet. But I was lucky and got to home base without seeing one person I knew.
The photo.......well its one of my favourites and shows Mik before he got sick a few years back, for all those who know Mik its typical of him, it shows his sparkle and his joy of life and its the one we have all chosen to go on his casket. Its MIK - and with that my dear friends I'll leave you all with hugs and thank you's for the wonderful emails and messages you have been sending, especially my "SISTERS" in heart.
JanJan
Lovely choice of photo, Jan.
ReplyDeleteOne day at a time, hey?
My FIL had the Goons played at his funeral, you know the one with all the yingtong tipdley I po (or however you spell it). Some people didn't approve, but it was just right for him and his sense of humour, and it made us all smile through our tears.
Were you and Mik childhood sweethearts then? I didn't meet by OH until I was 35, got a lot of catching up to do :o)
Good luck with the funeral, I hope it is like FIL's, that was a wonderful celebration of a wonderful man, I'm sure Mik's will be so too.
Jan you said, "I hope people don't start calling me "The Widow Coyle"." I'm sure you will always be Mrs Mik to those of us in the craft forum.
ReplyDeleteA friend of mine has "Wish Me Luck As You Wave Me Good-bye" lined up for her funeral. She doesn't want too much sadness, she says she's had a good life and it should be celebrated.
My stepfather was a magician (and a good one). He was known as 'Uncle Fred' as he mostly did children's parties. He had Perry Como's 'Magic Moments' played at his funeral. It summed him up completely.
ReplyDeleteAs Linda said you will always be 'Mrs Mik' to us.
Take care